إدريس عبدالله
_18 _December _2016هـ الموافق 18-12-2016م, 11:57 PM
All praises and thanks are due to Allah. May his peace and blessings be upon His prophet, and his family and his companions and all those who follow their path until the day of resurrection.
The relatives hold a special status in Islam. Islam gives great emphasis to the rights of relatives and encourages that a Muslim maintains a good relationship with his relatives.
Relatives are those who are related to you through blood and close ties; such as the brother, the uncle, the aunty, or their children. Everyone who has ties of relation with you has certain rights upon you in accordance with how close they are related to you. On this Allah, the Most High says:
وَاعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا ۖ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا وَبِذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ
"Serve Allah, and join not any partners with Him; and do good- to parents, kinsfolk.." Qur'an4:36"
وَآتِ ذَا الْقُرْبَىٰ حَقَّهُ
" And render to the kindred their due rights"(Qur'an17 :26)
There are many evidences encouraging and urging good relation to someone relatives; such as what Abu Hurayrah(peace be upon him) narrated that the prophet Muhammad(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: Indeed Allah created the creation, until when He finished doing so, the Rahm(ties of relation) stood-up and said: Is this the place of those who seek refuge in You from those who severe and cut ties with me. Allah, the exalted said: yes, indeed. Would it please you that I keep ties with those who keep ties with you, and cut-off ties with those who cut-off ties with you? The Rahm said: yes, indeed! Allah said: Then this is for you. Then, the prophet(peace be upon him) said: Recite if you wish:
فَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ إِن تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَن تُفْسِدُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوا أَرْحَامَكُمْ * أُولَٰئِكَ الَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ اللَّهُ فَأَصَمَّهُمْ وَأَعْمَىٰ أَبْصَارَهُمْ
" Then, is it to be expected of you, if ye were put in authority, that ye will do mischief in the land, and break your ties of kith and kin? * Such are the men whom Allah has cursed for He has made them deaf and blinded their sight." (Qur'an 47: 22-23). The (peace be upon him) also said: whosoever believes in Allah and the last day let him keep the ties of relations. (Bukharii)
Islam has very strict laws in relation to the interaction with relatives. It is regarded as a great act of corruption, if a person cuts off his contacts with any of his relations as we can see from the above evidences.
It has been made compulsory to help the needy relations at the time of their requirements and a person should always stay kind to his relatives. Thus, it is obligatory upon everyone to treat his relatives in a best possible manner, and support them in accordance with their needs, and what they seek of help and support and share their sorrows and pleasure within lawful limits.
It was narrated that when Allah revealed the verse:
لَن تَنَالُوا الْبِرَّ حَتَّىٰ تُنفِقُوا مِمَّا تُحِبُّونَ ۚ
"You will not attain piety until you spend from that which is beloved to you". [Quran 3: 93] Abu Talhah, may Allah be pleased with him, said, "The most beloved to me of my wealth is Bayrahaa’ (a garden), and I am giving it as a charity for Allah, I yearn for its reward from Allah. O Messenger of Allah, spend it as you see fit according to what Allah has shown you." The Messenger (peace be upon him) said, "Bakhin! (an expression of amazement) That indeed is a profitable trade. I have heard what you said, and I recommend that you spend it on your kin." Abu Talhah responded, "O Messenger of Allah, I will do so." And Abu Talhah, may Allah be pleased with him, indeed gave it away to his relatives.
Spending on kinship has become a neglected responsibility, to the point that you can easily find people who will invite a friend to a classy restaurant and never spend a dime on their cousin. They offer valuable gifts and even money to their peers and co-workers while their parents are in dire situations. This brings to mind the event of Musteh who was Abu Bakr's cousin and also among those who fell into the error of slandering his (Abu Bakr’s) daughter, the mother of the believers, 'Aaishah, may Allah be pleased with her, in the famous incident of ‘ifk (lie). This made Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, so furious that he took an oath he would never again give charity to Musteh. Following this incident Allah the Almighty sent down a number of verses attesting to the innocence of the mother of the believers, but among them was also this magnificent verse :
وَلَا يَأْتَلِ أُولُو الْفَضْلِ مِنكُمْ وَالسَّعَةِ أَن يُؤْتُوا أُولِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَالْمَسَاكِينَ وَالْمُهَاجِرِينَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ ۖ وَلْيَعْفُوا وَلْيَصْفَحُوا ۗ أَلَا تُحِبُّونَ أَن يَغْفِرَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ
"And let not those among you who are blessed with graces and wealth swear not to give (any sort of help) to their kinsmen, and the poor, and those who left their homes for Allah's cause. Let them pardon and forgive. Do you not love that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful." [Quran 24:22]
Upon hearing this beautiful verse, the noble companion Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, said, "Yes we love!"(meaning yes O Allah, we love that you forgive us) Then he resumed his spending on Musteh. Let us all pause and look deep into this verse and reflect upon its limitless wisdom, and see how Allah the Lord of the worlds guided to Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, charity to his kin, even when this person had falsely slandered his daughter!
So, it is obligatory upon every-one of us to maintain a good relationship with our relatives by showing respect, love and sympathy to them. We should try to be a good support for them at times of tribulations and Share with them glorious moments.
It was narrated that, the Holy Prophet(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “I was sent to complete (fulfil) the noble ethics.”
The relatives hold a special status in Islam. Islam gives great emphasis to the rights of relatives and encourages that a Muslim maintains a good relationship with his relatives.
Relatives are those who are related to you through blood and close ties; such as the brother, the uncle, the aunty, or their children. Everyone who has ties of relation with you has certain rights upon you in accordance with how close they are related to you. On this Allah, the Most High says:
وَاعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا ۖ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا وَبِذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ
"Serve Allah, and join not any partners with Him; and do good- to parents, kinsfolk.." Qur'an4:36"
وَآتِ ذَا الْقُرْبَىٰ حَقَّهُ
" And render to the kindred their due rights"(Qur'an17 :26)
There are many evidences encouraging and urging good relation to someone relatives; such as what Abu Hurayrah(peace be upon him) narrated that the prophet Muhammad(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: Indeed Allah created the creation, until when He finished doing so, the Rahm(ties of relation) stood-up and said: Is this the place of those who seek refuge in You from those who severe and cut ties with me. Allah, the exalted said: yes, indeed. Would it please you that I keep ties with those who keep ties with you, and cut-off ties with those who cut-off ties with you? The Rahm said: yes, indeed! Allah said: Then this is for you. Then, the prophet(peace be upon him) said: Recite if you wish:
فَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ إِن تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَن تُفْسِدُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوا أَرْحَامَكُمْ * أُولَٰئِكَ الَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ اللَّهُ فَأَصَمَّهُمْ وَأَعْمَىٰ أَبْصَارَهُمْ
" Then, is it to be expected of you, if ye were put in authority, that ye will do mischief in the land, and break your ties of kith and kin? * Such are the men whom Allah has cursed for He has made them deaf and blinded their sight." (Qur'an 47: 22-23). The (peace be upon him) also said: whosoever believes in Allah and the last day let him keep the ties of relations. (Bukharii)
Islam has very strict laws in relation to the interaction with relatives. It is regarded as a great act of corruption, if a person cuts off his contacts with any of his relations as we can see from the above evidences.
It has been made compulsory to help the needy relations at the time of their requirements and a person should always stay kind to his relatives. Thus, it is obligatory upon everyone to treat his relatives in a best possible manner, and support them in accordance with their needs, and what they seek of help and support and share their sorrows and pleasure within lawful limits.
It was narrated that when Allah revealed the verse:
لَن تَنَالُوا الْبِرَّ حَتَّىٰ تُنفِقُوا مِمَّا تُحِبُّونَ ۚ
"You will not attain piety until you spend from that which is beloved to you". [Quran 3: 93] Abu Talhah, may Allah be pleased with him, said, "The most beloved to me of my wealth is Bayrahaa’ (a garden), and I am giving it as a charity for Allah, I yearn for its reward from Allah. O Messenger of Allah, spend it as you see fit according to what Allah has shown you." The Messenger (peace be upon him) said, "Bakhin! (an expression of amazement) That indeed is a profitable trade. I have heard what you said, and I recommend that you spend it on your kin." Abu Talhah responded, "O Messenger of Allah, I will do so." And Abu Talhah, may Allah be pleased with him, indeed gave it away to his relatives.
Spending on kinship has become a neglected responsibility, to the point that you can easily find people who will invite a friend to a classy restaurant and never spend a dime on their cousin. They offer valuable gifts and even money to their peers and co-workers while their parents are in dire situations. This brings to mind the event of Musteh who was Abu Bakr's cousin and also among those who fell into the error of slandering his (Abu Bakr’s) daughter, the mother of the believers, 'Aaishah, may Allah be pleased with her, in the famous incident of ‘ifk (lie). This made Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, so furious that he took an oath he would never again give charity to Musteh. Following this incident Allah the Almighty sent down a number of verses attesting to the innocence of the mother of the believers, but among them was also this magnificent verse :
وَلَا يَأْتَلِ أُولُو الْفَضْلِ مِنكُمْ وَالسَّعَةِ أَن يُؤْتُوا أُولِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَالْمَسَاكِينَ وَالْمُهَاجِرِينَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ ۖ وَلْيَعْفُوا وَلْيَصْفَحُوا ۗ أَلَا تُحِبُّونَ أَن يَغْفِرَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ
"And let not those among you who are blessed with graces and wealth swear not to give (any sort of help) to their kinsmen, and the poor, and those who left their homes for Allah's cause. Let them pardon and forgive. Do you not love that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful." [Quran 24:22]
Upon hearing this beautiful verse, the noble companion Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, said, "Yes we love!"(meaning yes O Allah, we love that you forgive us) Then he resumed his spending on Musteh. Let us all pause and look deep into this verse and reflect upon its limitless wisdom, and see how Allah the Lord of the worlds guided to Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, charity to his kin, even when this person had falsely slandered his daughter!
So, it is obligatory upon every-one of us to maintain a good relationship with our relatives by showing respect, love and sympathy to them. We should try to be a good support for them at times of tribulations and Share with them glorious moments.
It was narrated that, the Holy Prophet(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “I was sent to complete (fulfil) the noble ethics.”